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I don’t know when it happened, but now Niko’s action figures shoot guns. I didn’t think Spiderman uses guns, but there he is… shooting away.
It’s weird… we don’t really watch any TV shows with guns while he is awake. All we watch when he is around is Food Network and HGTV. If he were being influenced by anything he was watching with us, he would be 5,000 pounds and telling me that our house has no curb appeal.
Perhaps he learned it at daycare? It has to be between daycare and/or playing with some of the older kids in our friend pool. Either way, all we hear is “pew, pew, pew.”
Maybe it’s natural… like how my dog never saw a gun in her life, but if you pointed something that looked like it at her, she would cower.
I must say – I am not a happy camper about it. I’m not against guns, but not too thrilled that my two-year-old son knows what they are.
I do own a gun, for home protection. I went to gun safety classes shortly after I got ole’ Bessy. I own a long gun and I keep it out of reach, out of sight, locked and the ammunition is stored separately. (Make no mind about it, if I heard my door kicked in, I can have it loaded and ready in seconds.)
So what’s a girl to do? For right now I am trying the ignoring/distraction tactic. I know that making a big deal about it will push the subject. So for right now, when Spiderman starts shooting at the Lego men, I start up a new movie or offer some fruit. This is not a good long-term game plan though.
When I talked to other boy mammas they all say the same thing. Yup. Their boys love guns (or shooting noises) and that they have no idea where they picked it up either.
Are your kids like that? Any tips/tricks?
I never bought toy guns for my kids, I just never felt comfortable doing that. I am really kind of a pacifist, so guns kind of make me cringe. But, they do pick it up, I think there is some natural aversion. I really just kind of ignored it because I found that if I didn't make a big deal, didn't buy the play weapons, they eventually lost interest.I'm pretty sure there's nothing to do about it. With Coop, it was worse when we made it taboo. Then I got him some "appropriate" guns with suction darts that he could shoot at the window, and he could get it out of his system. If you hand him fruit, you'll get shot with a banana. I've been banana'd many times. I think the main thing is to teach him not to point it at people - that seems to be the common social rule about shooting. And if you get him a water gun, call it a "squirter" so he can shoot it at people. Cuz what's the point of having one if you can't shoot anyone?Bo has lots of play guns. I've bought him some from the dollar store, too. I don't particularly like guns, seeing that my sister was shot and killed by one... but it's a boy thing and I'm OK with it. As they get older and go hunting with their daddies, it's important to teach gun safety. This world will always have guns in it I'm afraid. Bo says he wants to be a policeman when he grows up, guess what policemen have? Yep. Guns. And guess what army men have... guns... so if Niko watches Toy Story he might see the army dudes with guns in their arms. It'll all be OK... LOTS of boys play with guns and turn out just fine. For example, look our husbands...
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