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Look at that look of panic... OMG! I can't get it open and I know there is candy inside!!!! HELP!!!!
I have mentioned this before, but my closest family member is 500 miles away. This fact is evident on any holiday. We just got home from spending time with my sister’s family in Clarksville, TN.
We have spent 16 of the past 72 hours driving and the remaining 56 hours eating candy. (Kidding… we did pause to sleep.)
The weather was terrible, but the company was blissful. I loved seeing Niko play with his cousins all weekend.
When I look at Niko I feel a sense of déjà vu. I didn’t grow up with a lot of family around. I have TONS of cousins … that I visited once a year growing up. I’m always envious when I visit them… they have such a closeness I could only wish for.
I grew up being close to my paternal grandmother and aunt. I spent many weekends over at their house hanging out watching Hee Haw. Yes… Hee Haw and the Brady Bunch. She lived out in the sticks and that’s all that her antenna would pick up. On a good day she got 5 channels, but most of the time it was only 3. I remember the Christmas she got a VCR… it was the greatest thing ever.
Anyway – now, it seems that Niko will be echoing my life. Well, not the Hee Haw reruns, but all he has locally is his paternal grandparents and one aunt. Very familiar. So are the once-a-year trips to visit the cousins.
I will be honest. This is NOT what I had hoped for my children. It’s depressing when I think about it.
I was feeling a bit down when we pulled into the house this evening… then I opened the door and saw that the “Easter Bunny” visited our house while we were away. Niko’s “Aunts and Uncles” came over to the house and used their spare key to let in the bunny rabbit to hide some eggs for Niko-chan.He was SO excited to see the eggs. I was so amazed that they would think to do that for him.
Sometimes water is thicker than blood, and family is whom you make it. Niko has plenty of family; they just don’t share the same gene pool. (And that can be a good thing!!)
Just put my baby boy (he;s 24 now) on a plane so he could go back to work. Not what I had in mind either--I thought he would live across the street. He says-uh, no.I get what you are saying. I grew up with all my family close by, hubby with no one near (military family). We have never lived near family and I have always been jealous for my kids of their cousins close relationship with the grandparents. I think about when my grandchildren eventually come along it will be the same way and I miss them and they don't even exist yet. But you are right. Family is who you make it and that is a very good thing.I too grew up without extending family and missed it--now my sister is out of town with her children--they/we miss alot, but it is so much easier to still be close today with phones, webcams, email, Facebook, etc. Although my niece and nephew are a thousand miles away, I still feel very connected to them--and them to their Kansas City family. Different, but those times we are together are so much more special!We don't have any extended family in KC either; however, we just spent Saturday afternoon/night with our family with a single (like us); Sunday morning with my prayer mama; and Sunday afternoon with our first friends in KC and their extended family. I miss my bio family and so thankful for my KC clan.
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