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A photo of my mom and I on my wedding day.
When I was a teenager, I dreaded hearing how I would eventually turn into my mother. The thought was horrifying – I vowed not to let it happen to me. My mom was so strict and bull-headed when I was a teenager, always nagging me about homework, not hanging out with certain people and getting into college.
Of course now my whines about my mother sound crazy. I would never be able to have the life I have now if she had not been such a warden in my teenage life.
It’s a joke in our family about my mom’s “gentle suggestions.” My mom has never been shy about her thoughts – especially when it comes to our welfare.
For years my mom “asked” when I was going to settle down and start a family. When I was 25 my mom asked me if she should put the money they had saved for my wedding into an investment CD. Yea…. “gentle suggestion.”
I admit it – I was a party girl in my twenties. I worked hard during the week and partied even harder on the weekends. I was dating someone at the time, but it didn’t work out. When I turned 27 I reconnected with the man who would become my husband. Three years later we were married. My mom was thrilled (and so was my husband’s mom!).
The first mother’s day we were married, my mom started sending me mother’s day cards. Yea…. “gentle suggestion.”
I was pregnant by the second mother’s day and I received another card that read, “FINALLY!”
It’s now my third married mother’s day and I must say that I now see why my mom pushed me so hard to have a family. She was right…. it’s the best thing that’s ever happened to me.
I’ll never tell her, but I wish I had started my family earlier. It’s a catch-22 though – I wish I had started earlier, but I think I will be a much better mom because I waited. That’s not true for everyone, but I had a lot of growing up to do.
My mother and I are very different… yet as time goes on we are more of the same. I will probably become more and more like her, and that’s a good thing.
Although…. I am creeped out by the fact that I am LOOKING so much like her!!! When did that happen?
LOL! Looking at that photo at the top of your blog, my first thought was, "What an amazing resemblance."So very true!! I had my 1st child in my late teens, 2nd in my mid 20's and 3rd in my mid 30's. I think I am a much more patient mom in my 30's and soaking it all in. I don't regret the decisions I have made but if I could go backi n time I would have all the same children only later in life. I would have "lived" first. But life is as it is & I love it. When people tell me "boy you look like your mom", I am the 1st to say no I don't. But if someone says my daughter looks just like me, I say" thanks, she's beautiful". Weird??
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