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Emily Parnell
on May 25 2013 - 06:00 AM
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I'm totally feeling sorry for myself.
It's no secret that I'm looking for full time work. I have been for a year and a half. Don't get me wrong, I absolutely adore my part time teaching job. But it doesn't pay the bills. Our family needs me to make a full time salary. I'm not asking for much, just enough to keep those disconnect notices out of my mailbox. During the last month or so I've been looking much more seriously than ever, but there just aren't that many out there.
Then, just as I decided to give up my search and head to grad school, I get a request on the professional networking site LinkedIn to apply for a job.
Was I just headhunted? Cool!
I didn't know if I wanted this job at first. It was as a Montessori teacher, which is something I used to do and love. But I wasn't sure about the company, and I wasn't sure about the odd hours. Four ten-hour days? But I did as I was told and I applied. I got a phone interview, which was really a screening. When I passed that, I made an appointment for a face to face interview.
I was excited! I hadn't had an actual interview in months!
I started researching the company, talking to others, getting advice, and I started to get excited. This would be a pretty good job. The salary was decent. I could deal with the hours. It was a Montessori school, so I'm sure I could bring Charlotte. When I was a Montessori teacher, I was a really good one and I miss it anyway. I started thinking this would be a great job for me!
On the day of the interview, I was very professional. I wore nice slacks and a blazer, did my hair, and even wore a tiny bit of perfume. I stood with perfect posture, and I smiled and was polite and friendly to everyone I met. I said all the right things to make sure I gave a good impression. Now that I was inside the building, I wanted the job even more.
I sat down with the first interviewer and I definitely felt a click. I'm sure that was a click. She smiled at my answers! She asked me for more! She agreed with things I said!
Then the second interviewer came in. I could tell she was a Montessori teacher right away by her peaceful mannerisms. We know our own. She complimented some of my answers. It went so well I could hardly even believe it was really happening!
I drove home smiling. I made plans in my head about what I was going to do with my new salary. Fix the car? Buy new clothes? I haven't bought brand new clothes in years! I was going to get new sheets for Marc's bed and buy a new bookshelf for Charlotte's toys. I imagined myself walking in to my new job with my lunch box and my coffee mug. I dreamed of paying off bills and fixing the broken window in the living room that's too expensive to fix. Financially we have been floating without a boat, and this job would be our boat.
Then I got the phone call. They regret to inform me that they will not be moving forward with an offer.
Excuse me?
I have the right qualifications. I have the right experience. I answered all their questions exactly right. I mean, they contacted me for crying out loud! What happened?
My theory is that about a bajillion people applied for this job because about a bajillion people are out of work right now. Out of that bajillion are easily more than a few people who have more recent experience than I do, or more relevent degrees. Or easier to spell names. Who knows?
All I know is that I'm back where I started. I don't know why I thought that job was mine. That was silly! I made all these plans, and I was so sure this was real. I've been depressed for the last two days mourning the loss of something I never even had in the first place.
So where do I go from here? I was thinking about grad school. I guess I'll keep applying for jobs. In the meantime, I guess I'll just enjoy all this extra time I'm getting with the kids. Man, do I ever love those kids! I'll just keep on keepin' on.
The bad thing about good times is they are only temporary. The good thing about bad times is they are only temporary!
I feel for you, too, Val. Don't give up, I know a better job is waiting for you. I've taught my kids to "say a little prayer, it never hurts," and I hope that advice is ok for you, too.I have just gone through this process and I have to tell you to just keep on applying, keep on networking, keep on keepin' on. One position I applied for had 200 applicants. One position I applied for had 1,000! YES, 1,000 people applied for the same job listing. So just know that the search is about as difficult as it has even been in our lifetimes. Rising to the top in the interview process is an excellent sign - sometime soon an interview will turn into a good full-time satisfying job.
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